why being selfish is a positive attribute to have

  

Being selfish sounds bad, doesn’t it?

 

The Oxford dictionary defines the word selfish as, “lacking consideration for other people; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure.”

 

This is only an interpretation of the word, we believe that being selfish is a positive thing! 

 

So, here are five reasons why being selfish in your 20s is a good thing:

 

1.     Improves your self worth  

 

Especially in your 20s, these are the years to prioritise yourself and not work for others. The only person important to you is yourself, look after her!

Self-worth helps you to make better decisions based off of your own judgement and no one else. 

 

2.     Prioritising self-care

 

How are you expected to serve others when you yourself are run down? You can’t. Pouring from an empty cup into another cup is pouring nothing, therefore you cannot build other people up when you yourself, are feeling low. 

My favourite forms of selfcare are simple, yet effective in improving my head space to allow me to continue working towards my goals. For example, have a pamper night: wash your hair, put a face mask on and watch a film. Not only is it relaxing, but it resets my mindset and helps me to feel more positive. Make sure you fill this time with something you enjoy – do not feel guilty about it, this is the time for YOU.

You cannot look after others, if you are not looking after yourself. 

 

3.     Stop doing things for others 

 

Your 20s are the time to focus on YOU - prioritise yourself and your interests - without the constant need to impress or follow the crowd which had taken over our teenage years. Taking time to focus on what interests you will only help you develop as an individual.

 

Practice developing your independence – treat yourself to a walk around the park, a wee Starbucks trip, or even a shopping trip – as nice as it is to have company, carrying out tasks alone is not a bad thing. When you stop solely focusing on others, it gives you space to check in with yourself. It helps us to develop our confidence and allows us time to observe the world around us and take time with our thoughts and feelings. 

 

Your happiness lies within you, not others. 

 

4.     You’ll have more time to do the things you love 

 

Experiment with hobbies – it’s never too late to try something new! Always fancied trying rollerblading/ taking up reading/ learning to knit? – do it. We’re not getting any younger. If anything this pandemic has taught us, is to live for ourselves and enjoy what we are spending our time on. 

 5.     Productivity increases

 

As you are not stretching yourself to commitments with other people you have more time to prioritise what you want to do, whether that’s improving your schoolwork, starting a side hustle or just relaxing. You’ll have more time to do what you want to do. 

 

 

So, after taking these five reasons into consideration, we have now redefined the word selfish. 

 

New Definition: A positive, empowering and powerful individual, putting their happiness first and doing what is right for them. 

 

Now repeat after me, being selfish is good for me!

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